Yvonne Sandoval Yvonne Sandoval

From Pain to Purpose

Turning adversity into a gift for others

Turning Adversity into a Gift for Others

“I realized I wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood. I wouldn’t change a thing about my challenges as an adult. I wouldn’t change a thing about the bayou.”

I could barely believe this line as I typed it. After writing my entire life story, every heartbreak and injustice included, this was the honest conclusion I made at the end of my upcoming book From the Border to the Bayou.

 
 

The Fire That Forges Us

Life’s most painful moments have the power to shape us in ways we never imagined. At first, suffering feels like a weight that will crush us. But over time, we realize that adversity isn’t just something we endure—it’s something that forges us. It deepens our empathy, strengthens our resolve, and ultimately, fuels our passion to help others.

For those who have walked through the darkness of poverty, violence, or abuse like I have, this truth can feel impossible at first. But when you come out the other side, you realize that your wounds have turned into wisdom, and your pain has become your purpose.

Understanding Pain Deepens Compassion

It’s one thing to sympathize with someone else’s struggles. It’s another to truly understand them. When you’ve experienced deep suffering, you don’t just offer words of encouragement—you offer a presence that says, “I see you. I’ve been there.”

This is what makes survivors some of the most compassionate people in the world. We don’t just know the depths and intricacies of suffering—we also know what it takes to overcome it. With this knowing, we can find the ability to help others who are still in the thick of their battles. The most painful parts of our past can become the greatest gifts we give to the world.

Turning Pain into Passion

Once you’ve survived hardship, you face a choice: Will you let your past define you, or will you use it to fuel your future?

Many of the most passionate leaders, healers, and advocates come from difficult beginnings. Their struggles ignite a fire within them to create change—not just for themselves, but for others who are still suffering.

How have your struggles shaped your heart? What causes move you deeply? Who do you feel called to help? Your passion is often hidden in your pain, waiting for you to uncover it.

Helping Others Heals You, Too

The beauty of transforming pain into purpose is that healing is mutual. When you reach out to help others, you begin to heal yourself in ways you never expected. You start to see your experiences not as something that broke you, but as something that built you.

Serving others gives meaning to the past. It allows you to take back your story and rewrite the ending. Instead of being defined by trauma, you become defined by resilience, compassion, and the impact you make in the world.

Your Story Has Power

No matter what you’ve been through, your experiences have value. They can become a source of strength—not just for you, but for those who need to hear that survival is possible.

Your past does not determine your future. Your pain does not erase your worth. And your story, no matter how dark, has the power to bring light to others.

So the question is: How will you use what you’ve been through? Who will you lift up with the wisdom you’ve gained?

Because when we turn adversity into compassion, we don’t just survive—we transform the world around us.

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Yvonne Sandoval Yvonne Sandoval

From the ghetto to the highrise

How to Pivot from a Survivor to a Leader

how to pivot from a survivor to a leader

 
 

From the beginning, life wasn’t all unicorns and rainbows from where I grew up. That was a fairy tale that was far from where I started. I was raised by a single mother with three children from the streets of El Paso, Texas. 

At an early age, I was abused several times in my life. Do you know those crazy abusive stories that come from the movies? I was living in one. My abuse started at an early age by my stepdad. To make it worse, the abuse did not stop there. Shortly afterward, I was abused by the babysitter’s son who lived in the same apartment complex we lived in. My abuse was too close to home. At the age of 17, my daughter was conceived from another rape.  

From my abuse, I suffered psychological conditions, including anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), which forced me to walk a certain way and follow a predetermined path on the sidewalks. It was never-ending. It wasn’t long before the difficulties around my psychological circumstances, which included hearing voices and other self-inflicted issues, prohibited me from going outside.  

I have also experienced the life of being bullied. As a result, I ended up joining a gang at an early age where I fought with male members to gain respect and acceptance. This led to a life in and out of crime such as stealing, and stabbing, and I have seen two people die before my eyes. I was well known by the El Paso gang task force.  

A Calling for Change 

During that tribulation, I was called to a church, well-known for helping the outcast, those in gangs or drug addicts, called Victory Outreach. I was in and out of church trying to find myself. And the calling saved me in many ways, and the church community helped me for the first time in my life believe in myself and in the power of God.  

Soon, I was working with the gang task force, specifically Marylou Tarrillo, and speaking to detention centers and schools, helping to save committees, and focused on helping abused and at-risk kids, boys, and girls.  

Eventually, as time passed, my story and my ability to overcome such experiences was helping others. God works in mysterious ways they say. In my case, he continues to help me heal and be a vessel to help others heal, as well.  

Today, through all the hard work and healing, I have become a successful entrepreneur and business owner. The chapters of my past and the stories of my life are just the beginning of a long journey from struggle to triumph.  


This journey has taught me many lessons, but three I often communicate are:  

1. Walk away from negativity. Always stay positive and manifest your goals. 

2. Stay focused & work harder. Nobody can beat a hard worker.  

3. Never give up. Keep on moving. Every challenge is never easy, keep pushing forward.  

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